Everyone has their own way of recharging - of reconnecting with themselves, recovering, and neutralising emotions. It's important to respect that this is a key difference between all of us, and to recognise it's also key to sustaining all healthy, loving relationships.
I have always been of the mind that if I am struggling to respect what someone else needs, then I've not been good at honouring my own. Of course I've let the human in me get the better of me many times - getting explosive, reactive, upset, and angry. I don't care anymore that they are a mirror for me - At least until I have calmed down and have had the space to reflect..
Over time I have gotten better at making self-awareness a more present act, let's say from it being 75% of the time to 85% of the time.
I've gotten better at creating and practising my peace, asking for ways to heal my wounds, and inviting the understanding of what consistently blocks my abundance - things like frugality, identity, and family relating.
We all have baggage. And we are all doing our best with the thinking that we have, and how the world looks to us ♡
As I've learned to heal myself, I've been able to heal those around me.
When I recharge myself, I can help charge others positively.
And when I meet my peace on my terms, it makes it easier for me to allow those around me meet their peace on their terms.
It takes a lot of courage to find out how to best honour your needs consistently, especially when life keeps moving. But knowing that it always, ALWAYS results in a better relationship with every person you care about is motivation enough.
I'm not an expert because I'm still human and practising every day. But it is nice to feel less prone to being hot-headed for no good reason (which still happens!).
From experience, life is a lot more fruitful when you are in control of where you direct your energy. So recharge on your terms when possible, and see your life moving in a way that feels much, much easier.
Love,
Jules x
